This post is written by a person who is really pissed off at their parents and is currently not talking to them. (Basically this will be me complaining about my parents doing.) You have been warned.
1. When you fight don't bring up your kids. For heaven's sake. Don't do it. You don't need to get your kids involved in some fight that they don't have anything to do with. Far and for most don't use kids as a reason to start a fight. Damn! Don't you really get it. It will only make this kid feel like the fight is their fault and they will feel reeeeeeeeally bad. Plus it can effect the relationship between the kid and parents. Experience talks!!!!
2. If you want to fight about something you really don't need to drink yourself into a condition that you can't even stand. So simply put, don't drink to fight. And to those who are not drunk at the time just avoid the subject. It is that simple. It is not a good idea to try fighting with a person who is drunk. It will get you nowhere.
3. Parents this is very important point that you might really need when you kids are going trough puberty. If you promise something, please I am begging you, keep the promise. Because if you at the time of puberty lose the trust of you kid it will be gone for a quite a time. I telling you. If you want them to keep their promises they insist the same thing from you. If you don't keep it they won't either.
4. Listen to your kids. No matter how busy you are. Try to find some time to listen to them but do this when they want to talk. Forcing kids to talk about thing that they are not ready to talk about it wrong. It can effect the kids self-esteem quite a lot. So two things that you will need are waiting and listening. Sometimes just humming as answer is enough but that doesn't mean that it will always be enough. And of course it would be good to remember the thing that you have talked about with you kids.
5. Talk with you husband or wife about your kids!!!!!!! It is frustrating for the kid to answer the same message over and over again. So please talk about your kids. But if the kid says: "Don't tell dad." You should first think if you husband really needs to know about this matter but if you have come to the conclusion of telling about the matter be gentle. Rule number one: Don't talk about your kids doings in the morning table. Rule number 2: Do it in the bedroom just before sleeping?(the point is that you two are alone in the room when you do it)
6. Don't argue about pointless stuff. It will just make you both stress more. I am telling you. What does it matter if you bough the different type of cereal or bread? Or who cares if the toilet paper you bough is from a different shop than before?
7. Have father time with kids and have mother time with kids. Have family time. Like movie once a month on a night that every one agrees once the month starts.
8. Have rules! Don't spoil your kids! When they grow up their first boss or colleague will most likely be a asshole. The world is not a nice place where everybody says that if you made a mistake it doesn't matter. Their boss will not care if they had a party on Sunday all they will care is the fact that your kid did not return his report on time on Monday.
9. Support your kids!!! No matter if he is a ballerina or fire fighter or salesman he is your son and the same thing goes with you daughter it doesn't matter if she decides to be an actor or stripper or shoemaker. It doesn't change who they are. Your daughter or son might be gay or something else it really doesn't change the fact that they are your kids. It is okay to be shocked but don't judge them or ditch them. When they tell you that means that they are sure and ready for it but still they wan't your approval no matter how scary it might be.
10. Love them. I think this is not even needed but thinking about it kind of makes it seem more realistic and cute. There is no better relationship that between kid and parents.
Kid loves one's friend for a month, one's wife/husband a year, but one's
father and mother forever!#9gag
